What’s the Reason Behind Everything You Do?


So, you like to reach for the stars! Have you ever stopped to ask yourself, “Why do I want to touch them?” As I explore my next moves for the great year of 2011, I find myself being bombarded with tips and advice for handling great success. Premonitions? I hope so!

I quote Jack Canfield in saying, “You don’t want to get to the top of the ladder only to find out you had it leaning up against the wrong wall.” As I prepare to watch my business plan unfold before me, I’ve stopped to double-check that what I’m looking for is really what I want.

I’m pulling this next bit from Martha Beck’s article in the January 2011 edition of O Magazine. To paraphrase, Martha had clients coming into her office with big dreams, like having a baby and getting a huge promotion. When they got what they had been asking for, it turned out to be a different experience than what they had expected.

For instance, the woman who wanted the baby wanted to be loved. She imagined the baby arriving, nuzzling her, cooing at her, and growing up to admire her forevermore. What she got was a baby—who would do all that, but it wasn’t as dreamy as she had pictured it. That little person also came with colic, dirty diapers, and sleepless nights.

In the second case, the woman who wanted the huge promotion wanted more money and recognition. Of course that came with the job, but so did long hours, less fun, and an exhausting workload.

You can look at your goals and ask, what’s the reason behind everything that you do? When you examine it more closely, you come to realize that the feelings you desire—not the goal—are what you’re looking for more of in your life. If you start feeding your spirit these feelings you desire, you will work toward your sense of wholeness now—and the goal won’t be too far behind.

In the exercise, Martha Beck asked that you close your eyes and imagine yourself achieving that big goal you have for the year. Then, open your eyes and describe what you felt in three adjectives.

For example, my goal is to have great success with the Energy Shop this year. When I close my eyes, I feel:

  1. Excited
  2. Fulfilled
  3. Accomplished

Now, I need to look at my current life and ask myself, how can I feed the desire to feel those three things? Well, I get excited when Handmadeology publishes another one of my posts! I can hardly wait to read what the community is going to say when they find it!

I feel fulfilled when I’m serving others. Whether it be a nutritious dinner and mouth-watering dessert for my family or quality customer service for my shop, it feels good when I give my all in service.

Finally, I feel accomplished when I fully complete my business. I mean, don’t you? For instance, how does it feel when you not only finish your orders, but then clean up your workspace too?! I feel good when I look around me, and see completion–everything as it should be. That sense of accomplishment keeps my energy positive and forward-moving.

Lately, I’m making a point to feed my spirit what it craves by doing more of what I’m dreaming of–record-breaking sales at the Energy Shop, HERE I COME!

What are your dreams? And how do you feed them?

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  1. Linda Bange says:

    Good information! I, too, can get pulled away by the computer. Thank goodness it is up in my loft, so I have to make a decision to go to it. It was amazing how much I accomplished the other night when our phone service was out of order and I couldn’t get on the computer. We still have a dial up connection.

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